Even if you love and dream of any sexual love, marriage can be a wonderful thing, especially if you have the right partner who understands you and has similar views on life and needs. And if there is deep sexual love between you and your wife or husband, that is even better. These similarities can range from how vital money or career is to the couple, how much you should travel together, what you should eat, and so on. All these are important, but one of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage is unity of mind and body. Hence, sexual love should be an essential part of this relationship.
Sexuality is an integral part of relationships
Just like when you first started dating or fell in love and decided to get engaged and married. The woman you met and wanted to marry was probably the one who gave you a good impression when it came to sexual love. And vice versa. What man doesn’t want to know that he can satisfy his wife in bed and return for more? And the responsibility of sexual love is always placed on men, as if it’s our desire that drives sexuality in a relationship, but that’s not true. More than enough women can take the lead in the bedroom. As long as there is an element of sexual love in a relationship and you stay connected romantically, physically, and sexual love, that’s fine. It’s the glue that holds a marriage together. When it falls apart, many men turn to porn. It may numb the situation temporarily, but in the long run, sex may not be the answer.
What happens when sexual love disappears?
Every couple has external problems and difficulties in their marriage, whether it’s debt, stress, unemployment, or issues with renovations or in-laws. External stress can drastically change your marriage and the way you interact with each other. Usually, this is temporary, and things will eventually return to normal. All these reasons could be your fault or your partner’s. And sometimes, your partner has to turn to sex for stress relief or escape.
But what happens when the sexual affection dries up for no reason? You feel like you’re always making the first move. She’s never in the mood and doesn’t even want to kiss, let alone engage in foreplay. If 6-12 months have passed without any apparent reason why she doesn’t want to have sex with you, and you know you haven’t cheated or committed any heinous crimes, then it’s clear that a marriage without sex doesn’t work. It will work again, blossom, and become the sexual love loving and fun relationship you once had or wanted. Things will probably keep getting worse from here. And no matter how much sex you watch, nothing beats real sex! Look at the rich and famous, and you’ll see they have similar problems. That’s why they, too, turn to the adult industry and prefer porn.
If you don’t have kids, you probably don’t have a chance
However, unless you drink alcohol and plan to have sex at night, it’s impossible to have sex. If your needs aren’t being met and neither is your partner’s (because most people need sexual affection to feel good), then there are deeper problems in your marriage that can’t be solved by just “talking it out.” Relying on sex won’t help either. You can’t make someone want you. And if she doesn’t want to be sexual with you anymore, she probably won’t wake up one day and be crazy about you again. It’s better to accept that sometimes compatibility can go away quickly, and even if you do stay married, it will never be a good marriage if it’s not based 100% on sexual love. So it’s better to end it before you lose even more time and your sexual desire. That way, you can enjoy sex with your partner without feeling frustrated with them.
