If you answered “Yes,” wouldn’t it be nice to have someone to indulge that kink with? Maybe you’re lucky and already have a partner—a submissive babe who lets you tie her up, a couple who let you do their dishes naked while calling you a filthy pig, or even a fat lady to step on your face.
If not, it might be time to start looking. Thanks to the Internet, nobody needs to settle for a vanilla partner who doesn’t get the subtleties of BDSM—or the proper way to tie a clove hitch knot.
Finding Kink-Friendly People Online
Fetish.com is a thriving global community for people with kinks. With a simple, memorable domain, it’s been around for a while, though this version launched around 2015.
While Craigslist may have ditched adult classifieds years ago, Fetish.com offers a modern alternative for consenting adults to connect online before meeting in real life.
Way Better Than Craigslist Ever Was
Craigslist used to be one of the first places to find some weird side action. But let’s be honest—its text-only, lo-fi format wouldn’t work today. Fetish.com isn’t Craigslist, and it’s not an escort site either. It’s adult dating—or, as the site calls it, Fetish Dating. That’s probably more accurate: you might not go out for dinner, but she might choke you out with her thighs before the evening is over.
Even without signing up, the site’s sleek landing page makes it clear what it’s about. A dark purple theme, provocative background images, and repeated nudges to register make the experience enticing.
Free Resources for Kink Enthusiasts
You don’t have to join to check out Fetish.com. There’s a lot of free content for visitors, including:
- Basic info about BDSM and fetishes
- A magazine with kinky articles
- A thriving forum for lurking and learning
You’ll get pop-ups nudging you to sign up, but they’re easy to ignore if you’re browsing.
Even without registering, you can check out local BDSM and fetish events in the USA and UK, complete with links to individual websites.
Joining the Community
Eventually, I caved and clicked “Join.” Signing up was straightforward: choose a nickname, pick your gender (options include Female, Male, Couple, Trans, and Non-binary), and indicate what you’re looking for.
I opted for Females for Friends, Kinky Dates, Events & Places, NSA, Swingers, Networking, and BDSM Lovers, with a few online options like Pic Exchange and Cybersex.
Once inside, the member area works like any social site. The news feed shows:
- DIY porn
- Drawings of strippers
- Selfies of goth girls, cosplay chicks, ebony hotties, tatted-up MILFs, and plumpers
The downside? Most members in my feed were far away, and basic search filters are locked behind a Premium or VIP membership.
What Paid Members Get
Free users can still message others, which is a plus—some dating sites block all communication without payment.
Premium starts at €10/month, VIP at €17/month, with yearly rates around €54 and €90, respectively. Paid perks include:
- Access to hundreds of thousands of member-uploaded images
- Ability to upload your own videos
- Better visibility in search results
- Access to local members
- Ad-free experience
VIP gets even more perks, like unlimited video uploads and extra icebreaker messages.
Is It Worth Paying?
Ultimately, it depends on local availability. If you have a few kinksters nearby, a month of Premium or VIP might be worth it to see what weird, kinky fun is possible.
Fetish.com has half a million monthly visitors, making it a solid option for anyone with niche sexual interests. Signing up is easy, and you might finally meet someone willing to explore your deepest fetishes.
